The Eulogy

Wikipeida: A eulogy (from εὐλογία, eulogia, Classical Greek for “praise”) is a speech or writing in praise of a person(s) or thing(s), especially one who recently died or retired or as a term of endearment.

As the eldest of three, the task/honor/responsibility/privilege has fallen to me.

How to say?  What to say?  To whom?

I think back to the funerals I’ve attended.  Not unlike commencement speeches, I remember nothing of the content.

What, then, should be my goal?  Inform and exalt?  Inspire and introspect?

“I loved my dad” isn’t the message.  But what is?

I am him.

Or at least he represents the “me” I seek to be.

The adjectives used to describe him – which may become redundant – are variants of “generous” and “kind” and “curious” and “quiet.”

And there is a guidance in these adjectives provoked by this quirky man.  The message is a paradox of influence, and it’s taken me decades to decipher.

This will be my message:  the guidance of my dad’s life – and how he had such great impact on so many people, because he didn’t seek to have great impact.